Control is a Matter of Perception..

A thing was said to me today which made me contemplate the ability of another to control someone up to the point where the other party changes things. I think its really important to remember ~

Control is a Matter of Perception... Ergo, Control over the circumstances affected by another's behavior is truly pure perception. Do not fool yourself otherwise. Once the other party decides to no longer play ball per se, its Game Over!

Make no mistake, this is NOT about Dominance and submission. A slave's submission is brought through a level of given service, even better a sacrificial service, through devotion to her Master, with the full knowledge and awareness of what she is giving and what she is (and this is important) receiving from Him in return... While her Master covets her submission, structures in Dominance and guides it through caring and order and nurture. He is fully aware that the level of her service is truly a gift to him and treats it as such with Honor and Respect by meeting her needs, both those she is aware of and those she may not so clearly see. They are aware of the give and take within the relationship, defined it prior to engaging it, and embraced it as such.. Because of all this, there is Beauty in the service between a Master and slave... Beauty in the order and care they take for each other.. There is no Arrogance and Misconceptions as to how Control came to be exchanged in this arrangement.

So where does that leave you? If you choose to do otherwise.. If you choose to believe that the person you've convinced yourself you can 'manage' on your own will be ok, then you will continue to put yourself in positions where you are vulnerable and perhaps not in control of yourself. Arrogance is powerful emotion and it leads us to many, many error frought decisions (believe me, I've made some lovely ones!).

The thing I have always told my children was that there were always consequences.. good and bad for every action, or, inaction.. Sometimes its hard to reconcile ourself to that because we'd like to believe we didnt have a choice but really there is always a choice.

Choices. Its been six months and then some now for mine. Sleep still is elusive. I have to go through a little more for it but its ok now. Arrogance sometimes asks a pretty penny. But thats the price sometimes when you think you can control a situation or believe you have someone under control.

It flips on a dime.. and it changes.. and where you were is not where you are now.. the rabbit hole surely fell open, swallowed you up and spit you out in a totally different dimensional plane.. It happens that fast.. All the players of the game are still sitting there looking at you but what you didnt know was that when stopped to take that breath a moment ago and when you needed to blink your eyes...

All the rules changed.. Control is Truly a Matter of Perception.