Moth:Butterfly:Moth

Moth is to Butterfly as Butterfly is to Moth.

Thus goes the cycle of life. All things cycle.. and I mean more than a woman's menstruation. All things.

Why is the life cycle for BDSM Relationships typically 3 to 4 months? Why do they consistently seem to fizzle out about that time?!? To every beginning, there is an end. But why do they seem so consistently short lived?

Marriages are entered into with a lot of self identification going in along the way. Like two separate engines, the parties roll along on their own steam sharing a bit of track. Married people may tend to see that as a bit of put down. Its not intended to be. Rather, its just the way things are.. Sometimes they adjoin each but generally, their forward movement is independent of the other party.

This is so evident throughout a marriage. In the beginning, a couple is googley eyed and joined at their partners hip. But, isnt that really just because the engines are starting up on their track?!? Later on, they develop life paths, careers, one may stay at home and parent. Does a work outside the home father think twice about wanting to sit at the park and chit chat with the other stay at home mom's? Hell no. Does the stay at home mom think at 8pm at night when she's rocking the baby that she sure wishes she could be stuck in a long after hours meeting? hell no..

Why? Because each chose a path for them and they like it.

Why is a BDSM Relationship different? Because one is the engine and one is hotly in tow not as a dead weight but as support to the primary engine. The two engines burn in a combined manner for a common purpose. A singular purpose. If you have a slave.. and you ask her what her purpose is.. The answer is simple. Her purpose is the betterment and happiness of her Master.

If a vanilla marriage fails, does one party catapault along while the other falters into dismal misery? Well sometimes if one of the divorce lawyers is particularly brutal. But once the divorce passes, both parties move again on the destined paths to successes and failures of their own.

When there is a parting of ways in a Master / slave relationship, you never really see the same inertial movement as before. One may still move forward but just as succinctly one falters and that generally is the party that submits and falls in tow. Have you ever watched a train and a single car chug along? What if the engine fails and the cars break apart? Physically speaking, they cant possibly propel the same as they were or there would be an accident or they would reconnect. In fact, the only way two cars connected like that can successfully break apart is for one to fall off at steadily depreciating rate of speed. One moves forward while the other withers.

Perhaps that is why they are such short relationships? The energy burned in maneuvering the two cars as one is exhaustive. Almost like a highly charged firecracker burning so bright but still so fast until kaboom.