Dominating Thoughts...

Over the past few months ive written a lot about my point of view and in turn how ive been trained to understand submission and a slave's role... It's had a variety of reactions including queries as to my point of view on Dominance.. Apparently, enquiring minds want to know..
Sooooo.... As im always full of an opinion .. or two.. or three..lol.. here goes!

Dominance 101 ~ whats the point of it???? what purpose does the Dominant serve to the sub /slave??? Well, as i KNOW ya'll have read all the other blogs you undoubtedly remember the first lesson for a slave.. yes?? come on.. you can raise your hands... lol Remember? Lesson No. 1 for a slave is to .. Serve to be served.. by serving Him, it serves her needs??? Ring a bell?? Is there a ringy dingy going off anywhere???

Ok.. Ergo, through this same concept.. the slave serves.. and to that purpose the Dominant by nature fosters an environment that encourage the behaviors he enjoys in his slave.. its a symbiotic relationship.. Structure and order... Trust and Commitment.. those develop between the two through service to each other..

If only one is serving, there will be, eventually, a failure in Trust, in Commitment and then in turn a breach in Order and in Structure and that results in a failure in a relationship...

Realistically, beyond a BDSM relationship, in any relationship, where the parties fail to serve each other regularly, with full consideration and commitment to what they should be bringing to the table.. what the other needs... then there will be always be, without fail, a relationship in jeopardy...

i mean, come on people, isnt the point of loving someone and being with someone to take care of them? i mean, to really take care of them? inside and out? can you be honest with yourself and say you have? i am just as flawed as a lot of people.. and i work at it everyday.. its just something to be cognizant of..

So, while people tend to perceive a Master as a pvc chap wearing kink-master-flash, his is also a point of service to his sub/ slave... Because, through his guidance, the order he provides, the structure, and even the boundaries.. it gives her what she needs.. those are the things she is looking for in her life.. In so many ways, they are the ying and the yang..

Why the kink? Why whip your tail? Why bend you over the desk and paddle you with that ginormous leather paddle????

Because... Y/you two can.. Because Y/you two like it.. and Most importantly..

Because... Y/you two want it..

The "C" Word...

i have read so many blog entries, journals, editorialized commentaries written by various people.. they write of this life in detail... they seem so knowledgable and willing to teach and critique the others around them for 'style' and 'technique'... the one thing i never see them theorize is the commitment level required.. they talk about trust and obedience from a slave, etc.. but what about commitment from the Master and in return His slave?

It just seems like its taken for granted.. that particular relationship, moreso than a D/s as a submissive has her own defined boundaries, should require some of the highest levels of commitment achievable.. and yet, so often, these relationships are as transient, as inconsistent and insincere as any other relationship.. why?

Because, my dear friends, the human animal is a lazy creature by its very nature..

The effort given to this relationship is no different than any other and yet, by its very nature, a slave loses herself to her Master.. so why, why would she not invest the time and energy to find the right Master that she could fully commit to and that would fully commit to her? Afterall, once she is His, her world is enveloped into His.. they should flow in unison.. but..

Then something faulters.. the commitment from one or the other faulters.. someone stops either physically or mentally showing up.. and alas, the commitment is breached.. So, why arent we talking more about the time investment before we start strapping each other in or breaking out the toys.. we sure seem quite capable about talking about how a Master or a slave should behave after that.. the proper way to do this or that..

We sure are full of ourselves.. full of judgementalism.. full of a lot of things for that matter..