slave or submissive?

A question was posed via broadcast email through one of the local groups I belong to recently. It was a query regarding the difference between a submissive and a slave. I was in awe of the variety of answers that came across my email which seemed to indicate a belief that they were similar and about obedience. The general assumption regarding their difference however, seems to have been that submissives are retaining control and part time while slaves have a spiritual relationship.

Well.. frankly speaking.. thats just crap. The similarities between a submissive and a slave end at a mutual proclivity to submit. From there, the differences are vast.

A submissive submits to a Dominant partner as they have mutually agreed upon. The submissive has delineated the areas in which she will or will not submit, the timing of her submission and to whom she will submit. Ergo, in all reality, the submissive has maintained full control of herself even through her submission. Further, the very act of submission is defined by the submissive herself including focus on play and limitations. Thus, in a Dominant / submissive relationship, the Dominant partner is truly an instrument to the submissive.

In contrast, a slave is owned property of her Master. As property or chattel, the slave subjugates herself to her Master's will at all times, in all ways and is obedient to His command without hesitation. A slave in this type of relationship is afforded only so many choices and decisions as her Master gives her and those may be removed at His discretion. A slave's submission is a need fulfilled by service to her Master. There are no limits to that service. Unlike a Dominant partner, a Master is to His slave the entirety of her world, the definition of it.. all things flow through Him. Beyond this, a slave has no opportunity to leave her Master without his approval while a submissive may go at her own accord.

I dont believe the differences between the Dominant / submissive and Master / slave relationships are merely able to summed up between which one is of a spiritual nature and which one is more control oriented. Rather, in a Dominant /submissive relationship the submissive defines the relationship while in a Master / slave relationship that is the responsibility of the Master.

I believe that both relationships can be based on love and can have a strong connection. That being said, there is a special vulnerability a slave bears to her Master as his property. She has placed all her proverbial eggs in one basket so to speak by placing blind trust and faith in Him. With that though, she fulfills her own need to serve beyond measure. This is not about submitting in between the sheets. Slaves serve day in and day out regardless of their desire to complete the assigned chore because it is through their immediate obedience that they fulfill their Master's need.

Can a Master be a Dominant to a submissive? yes.. Can a Dominant be a Master to a slave? not necessarily.. Its the old square is a rectangle but a rectangle isnt necessarily a square rule..
To extend that further though.. Can a submissive be a slave to a Master? no.. Can a slave be a submissive to a Dominant? no again.. Why the difference here? Because of need.. a submissive needs to maintain control to a certain degree and a Master needs to own all of it.. While a slave needs to be owned and to have no control.. her world would be in disorder with a Dominant.

Are submissives fun? Absolutely. Are slaves entertaining? You bet you're bottom dollar. Can you just walk up to either one of them and grab them off the shelf and have instant success? No way Jose. At their core, they are inately different as defined by their needs.. their need for or to release control.. their need to obey.. and the intensity of their feeling to subjugate themselves.. Neither is better or worse.. Nor is this a spiritual matter..

Its all about need.. hunger.. desire.. Before you define yourself, you should define yours.

A Few Lessons For Yummy Slaves..

As this girl has been allowed to serve for almost ten years now.. ive been taught (sometimes begrudgingly so) a few things.. Lately, ive been noticing some odd behavior from some of my cohorts.. in a show of ... what the heck are you thinking and can you please fix this now cuz youre making it hard on all of us.. i thought i might share a few of the important ones with them now..

One of the first lessons and in turn the most important lessons learned, was a slave serves to be served.. Now, darlings, ohhhhh yummy, savory, dear ones.. this is a lesson to take to heart, if you have one in that stoney facade... you serve your Master, because frankly speaking, serving Him serves your needs...

That brings us to Lesson Numero Dos chickiepoo's... so, open up your text books and get your comment cards ready (cuz i know its your favorite past time).. Ready? really really ready? got your socks on cuz im gonna hit the ground running on this one and im not waiting for your ass to catch up.. Ahem.. Now, where were we for the slow ones..

Oh yes .. Lesson No. 2 ~ Service Requires Humility and that means.. for those who have synapsis that fail to frequently fire and cant quite make that bridge of logic between the left brain and the right... There isnt any room for your ginormous ego.. and Lord knows.. if there isnt room for that thing which the Hubble used to call out from space..and you have to get rid of it.. how in the jolly green eyed monsterville can you expect to be jealous, possessive, or whatever pretty little word your therapist wrote down on her paper that helps you make it through the night but really says the same damned thing as the other two words.. aka.. youre just a jealous bitch.. so get over it.. its not allowed anymore..

Its ok.. you can stop crying now.. its over.. See.. that wasnt so hard!

And our third lesson ladies.. this one should make you all go, well duh! Especially if you've managed to get the other two lessons to gel in your brain cavity sufficiently... Now, so to recap.. if youre still here with us oh yummy ones.. lil savory darlings..

If youre still here, youve assumed the position.. with grace and humility.. ego checked at the door and all that entails.. and with the full realization of what service means... So, ideally, it should be easy to hear Lesson Three.. but really its not for some.. because this one doesnt have orders from Master.. youre self governing here, chicka..

Lesson Three says you, darling, are always a reflection of your Master in all ways.. how does cattiness become him? how does rudeness become him? Is kindness what you would extend to his friends or, rather, a bite of the hand? Its more than manicured fingernails and toes... i assure you.. although id no sooner be caught dead with a chipped toesie..

How do you serve your Master when he is not there? By excelling at Lesson Number Three.. by not just being groovy to the ugly fat chicks youre not worried he might have an inclination to boink.. Lets be real about this shall we dears? He's going to do what he wants.. He has the privity of the cane.. there is freedom in that..

What should you have? Confidence in your ability to serve his needs.. Confidence in your own beauty.. Confidence in your own ways to make him smile..

Because as a slave, anything more than confidence looks an awful lot like an untrained, ill mannered brat that has no need to serve more than to get her rocks off let alone make her Master happy.. So, choose your actions accordingly..

The "C" Word...

i have read so many blog entries, journals, editorialized commentaries written by various people.. they write of this life in detail... they seem so knowledgable and willing to teach and critique the others around them for 'style' and 'technique'... the one thing i never see them theorize is the commitment level required.. they talk about trust and obedience from a slave, etc.. but what about commitment from the Master and in return His slave?

It just seems like its taken for granted.. that particular relationship, moreso than a D/s as a submissive has her own defined boundaries, should require some of the highest levels of commitment achievable.. and yet, so often, these relationships are as transient, as inconsistent and insincere as any other relationship.. why?

Because, my dear friends, the human animal is a lazy creature by its very nature..

The effort given to this relationship is no different than any other and yet, by its very nature, a slave loses herself to her Master.. so why, why would she not invest the time and energy to find the right Master that she could fully commit to and that would fully commit to her? Afterall, once she is His, her world is enveloped into His.. they should flow in unison.. but..

Then something faulters.. the commitment from one or the other faulters.. someone stops either physically or mentally showing up.. and alas, the commitment is breached.. So, why arent we talking more about the time investment before we start strapping each other in or breaking out the toys.. we sure seem quite capable about talking about how a Master or a slave should behave after that.. the proper way to do this or that..

We sure are full of ourselves.. full of judgementalism.. full of a lot of things for that matter..