Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire..

How does that old addage go?

Liar, Liar.. Pants on fire.. Hang your butt on a telephone wire? and so on and so forth.. I think we all sang that rhyme as children.. taunting each other with a holier than thou sense of superiority when it came to our own honesty.. and yet, in all reality.. underneath it all.. dont we all lie? Every single one of us?

Of course we do.. and the one that says he doesnt is the biggest liar of them all.

So, if we're all liars.. because a lie is a lie is a lie just as a sin is a sin is a sin.. How do we ever guage honesty? To me, its a matter of how much garbage someone will go through before they tell that lie..

Will she walk through fire before she lies to you about her feelings?!? or..rather would He tell a whopper at the drop of the hat rather than divulge an innocuous outting with another wanton hole?!? hm?!? How much will someone go through.. or moreover.. how much is their personal integrity worth to them?

I had contemplated briefly that it was perhaps an environmental affliction that could cause the lie.. and yet.. if thats the cause, that would also go to implicate their lack of personal integrity as well, wouldnt you say? If their concern for someone else's reactions allowed them to truly sway them from being truthful, I do believe that reflects on them.. That being said, telling someone that you are standing them up for dinner plan because you have a hot date with someone else is a lot harder than lying and saying youre taking your aunt, or mother or other family member somewhere.. but eventually, the truth is always told..

So why do I believe people lie? Fear.. plain and simple.. They are afraid .. afraid of losing something.. afraid of perceptions.. afraid of the other persons reaction or lack of acceptance.. I can see why children lie so much though.. they operate on instinct and need.. Fear is an instinctual reaction.. and that is, in my humble opinion, why it is so hard to train them to not lie to us as they develop..

But then, why do we as adults, and then moreover, within the realm of Master / slave relationships, choose to lie to each other.. To a certain degree, fear of rejection, perceptions, and judgment, at least in theory, should be removed..

Within a Master, a slave should find her shelter from the world.. a place to be vulnerable.. He is responsible for her training.. thus, abject honesty on her part is elemental.. and then in turn, a her Master receives her full, unhindered submission.. its trusting, and blind.. that is built on credibility..

I find it ironic that most of us would not leave a $20 bill laying on a sidewalk.. nor would we toss it out the window as we drove down the highway.. So, I ask you this..

If you wont treat what equates to lunch at Mcdonalds cavalierly, why would you treat your relationships that way by polluting them with lies no matter how you try to justify them?
After all.. the last line of that old rhyme says..

Made a mistake.. and now, its too late.

Dominating Thoughts...

Over the past few months ive written a lot about my point of view and in turn how ive been trained to understand submission and a slave's role... It's had a variety of reactions including queries as to my point of view on Dominance.. Apparently, enquiring minds want to know..
Sooooo.... As im always full of an opinion .. or two.. or three..lol.. here goes!

Dominance 101 ~ whats the point of it???? what purpose does the Dominant serve to the sub /slave??? Well, as i KNOW ya'll have read all the other blogs you undoubtedly remember the first lesson for a slave.. yes?? come on.. you can raise your hands... lol Remember? Lesson No. 1 for a slave is to .. Serve to be served.. by serving Him, it serves her needs??? Ring a bell?? Is there a ringy dingy going off anywhere???

Ok.. Ergo, through this same concept.. the slave serves.. and to that purpose the Dominant by nature fosters an environment that encourage the behaviors he enjoys in his slave.. its a symbiotic relationship.. Structure and order... Trust and Commitment.. those develop between the two through service to each other..

If only one is serving, there will be, eventually, a failure in Trust, in Commitment and then in turn a breach in Order and in Structure and that results in a failure in a relationship...

Realistically, beyond a BDSM relationship, in any relationship, where the parties fail to serve each other regularly, with full consideration and commitment to what they should be bringing to the table.. what the other needs... then there will be always be, without fail, a relationship in jeopardy...

i mean, come on people, isnt the point of loving someone and being with someone to take care of them? i mean, to really take care of them? inside and out? can you be honest with yourself and say you have? i am just as flawed as a lot of people.. and i work at it everyday.. its just something to be cognizant of..

So, while people tend to perceive a Master as a pvc chap wearing kink-master-flash, his is also a point of service to his sub/ slave... Because, through his guidance, the order he provides, the structure, and even the boundaries.. it gives her what she needs.. those are the things she is looking for in her life.. In so many ways, they are the ying and the yang..

Why the kink? Why whip your tail? Why bend you over the desk and paddle you with that ginormous leather paddle????

Because... Y/you two can.. Because Y/you two like it.. and Most importantly..

Because... Y/you two want it..

The "C" Word...

i have read so many blog entries, journals, editorialized commentaries written by various people.. they write of this life in detail... they seem so knowledgable and willing to teach and critique the others around them for 'style' and 'technique'... the one thing i never see them theorize is the commitment level required.. they talk about trust and obedience from a slave, etc.. but what about commitment from the Master and in return His slave?

It just seems like its taken for granted.. that particular relationship, moreso than a D/s as a submissive has her own defined boundaries, should require some of the highest levels of commitment achievable.. and yet, so often, these relationships are as transient, as inconsistent and insincere as any other relationship.. why?

Because, my dear friends, the human animal is a lazy creature by its very nature..

The effort given to this relationship is no different than any other and yet, by its very nature, a slave loses herself to her Master.. so why, why would she not invest the time and energy to find the right Master that she could fully commit to and that would fully commit to her? Afterall, once she is His, her world is enveloped into His.. they should flow in unison.. but..

Then something faulters.. the commitment from one or the other faulters.. someone stops either physically or mentally showing up.. and alas, the commitment is breached.. So, why arent we talking more about the time investment before we start strapping each other in or breaking out the toys.. we sure seem quite capable about talking about how a Master or a slave should behave after that.. the proper way to do this or that..

We sure are full of ourselves.. full of judgementalism.. full of a lot of things for that matter..