In the Old Testament, King David required offerings from his people. Bible verse says that not just any old offering would do. King David didnt want a few coin from a wealthy man or a few ears of corn from a farmer. To him, what were the people giving that offered this or the like? No, to him the measure of a worthy offering was all in the sacrifice.
How much did they sacrifice in putting forth their offering? To him, that was the measure of devotion.
And so, today, isnt that still the same measuring stick we use to gauge a gift?
When does a slave sacrifice? Why does a slave sacrifice?
Its easy to think of a slave as a shell. A slave entity, per se, that modulates their behavior to be as compliant as humanly possible. I dont think thats a slave. I dont think a slave is mechanical. Does a robot actually yield? Does a machine submit?
Plainly No.
The most amazing part of a slave is their willingness to yield all things to their Master. To submit all things to His guidance. This inherently implies the slave functions as a mindful, willful, self possessed entity. The slave's sacrificial offering is their will.
Thats a pretty big tall order. I've often said that true blue died in the wool slaves are a rare thing indeed. Theyre rare because the enormity of this offering is often not desirous by the standards of others. Most are quite content defining a few, or a lot, of boundaries to protect themselves.
So, which is worth it? Giving some or giving all. Biblically speaking, David's people sacrificially gave because of the leadership, protection and guidance he brought to his people. He served the needs of his people just as much as they sacrificed. His purpose was more than sitting on a gilded throne. Rather, his purpose was to ensure the well being, care and welfare of the peoples of his land.
Not all leaders are as admired and wonderous ad David was.. rather, there are some more like Bill Clinton. There are some leaders and Masters, for that matter, who feel like the gilded throne is where its at. Just as Bill Clinton was impeached, most leaders who fail to serve the needs of their people.. most Masters who fail to serve the needs of their slaves.. find their very selves wanting because the amount of sacrificial offering received is directly proportionate to their ability to satisfy the needs of their people / slave.
Denial of this precedence is folly. Long term denial tends to find peoples without leaders and slaves without Masters.
So, is the sacrifice worth it? It could be.. should be.. might be.. It sure has the opportunity to be..
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Saturday, August 16, 2008
slave or submissive?
A question was posed via broadcast email through one of the local groups I belong to recently. It was a query regarding the difference between a submissive and a slave. I was in awe of the variety of answers that came across my email which seemed to indicate a belief that they were similar and about obedience. The general assumption regarding their difference however, seems to have been that submissives are retaining control and part time while slaves have a spiritual relationship.
Well.. frankly speaking.. thats just crap. The similarities between a submissive and a slave end at a mutual proclivity to submit. From there, the differences are vast.
A submissive submits to a Dominant partner as they have mutually agreed upon. The submissive has delineated the areas in which she will or will not submit, the timing of her submission and to whom she will submit. Ergo, in all reality, the submissive has maintained full control of herself even through her submission. Further, the very act of submission is defined by the submissive herself including focus on play and limitations. Thus, in a Dominant / submissive relationship, the Dominant partner is truly an instrument to the submissive.
In contrast, a slave is owned property of her Master. As property or chattel, the slave subjugates herself to her Master's will at all times, in all ways and is obedient to His command without hesitation. A slave in this type of relationship is afforded only so many choices and decisions as her Master gives her and those may be removed at His discretion. A slave's submission is a need fulfilled by service to her Master. There are no limits to that service. Unlike a Dominant partner, a Master is to His slave the entirety of her world, the definition of it.. all things flow through Him. Beyond this, a slave has no opportunity to leave her Master without his approval while a submissive may go at her own accord.
I dont believe the differences between the Dominant / submissive and Master / slave relationships are merely able to summed up between which one is of a spiritual nature and which one is more control oriented. Rather, in a Dominant /submissive relationship the submissive defines the relationship while in a Master / slave relationship that is the responsibility of the Master.
I believe that both relationships can be based on love and can have a strong connection. That being said, there is a special vulnerability a slave bears to her Master as his property. She has placed all her proverbial eggs in one basket so to speak by placing blind trust and faith in Him. With that though, she fulfills her own need to serve beyond measure. This is not about submitting in between the sheets. Slaves serve day in and day out regardless of their desire to complete the assigned chore because it is through their immediate obedience that they fulfill their Master's need.
Can a Master be a Dominant to a submissive? yes.. Can a Dominant be a Master to a slave? not necessarily.. Its the old square is a rectangle but a rectangle isnt necessarily a square rule..
To extend that further though.. Can a submissive be a slave to a Master? no.. Can a slave be a submissive to a Dominant? no again.. Why the difference here? Because of need.. a submissive needs to maintain control to a certain degree and a Master needs to own all of it.. While a slave needs to be owned and to have no control.. her world would be in disorder with a Dominant.
Are submissives fun? Absolutely. Are slaves entertaining? You bet you're bottom dollar. Can you just walk up to either one of them and grab them off the shelf and have instant success? No way Jose. At their core, they are inately different as defined by their needs.. their need for or to release control.. their need to obey.. and the intensity of their feeling to subjugate themselves.. Neither is better or worse.. Nor is this a spiritual matter..
Its all about need.. hunger.. desire.. Before you define yourself, you should define yours.
Well.. frankly speaking.. thats just crap. The similarities between a submissive and a slave end at a mutual proclivity to submit. From there, the differences are vast.
A submissive submits to a Dominant partner as they have mutually agreed upon. The submissive has delineated the areas in which she will or will not submit, the timing of her submission and to whom she will submit. Ergo, in all reality, the submissive has maintained full control of herself even through her submission. Further, the very act of submission is defined by the submissive herself including focus on play and limitations. Thus, in a Dominant / submissive relationship, the Dominant partner is truly an instrument to the submissive.
In contrast, a slave is owned property of her Master. As property or chattel, the slave subjugates herself to her Master's will at all times, in all ways and is obedient to His command without hesitation. A slave in this type of relationship is afforded only so many choices and decisions as her Master gives her and those may be removed at His discretion. A slave's submission is a need fulfilled by service to her Master. There are no limits to that service. Unlike a Dominant partner, a Master is to His slave the entirety of her world, the definition of it.. all things flow through Him. Beyond this, a slave has no opportunity to leave her Master without his approval while a submissive may go at her own accord.
I dont believe the differences between the Dominant / submissive and Master / slave relationships are merely able to summed up between which one is of a spiritual nature and which one is more control oriented. Rather, in a Dominant /submissive relationship the submissive defines the relationship while in a Master / slave relationship that is the responsibility of the Master.
I believe that both relationships can be based on love and can have a strong connection. That being said, there is a special vulnerability a slave bears to her Master as his property. She has placed all her proverbial eggs in one basket so to speak by placing blind trust and faith in Him. With that though, she fulfills her own need to serve beyond measure. This is not about submitting in between the sheets. Slaves serve day in and day out regardless of their desire to complete the assigned chore because it is through their immediate obedience that they fulfill their Master's need.
Can a Master be a Dominant to a submissive? yes.. Can a Dominant be a Master to a slave? not necessarily.. Its the old square is a rectangle but a rectangle isnt necessarily a square rule..
To extend that further though.. Can a submissive be a slave to a Master? no.. Can a slave be a submissive to a Dominant? no again.. Why the difference here? Because of need.. a submissive needs to maintain control to a certain degree and a Master needs to own all of it.. While a slave needs to be owned and to have no control.. her world would be in disorder with a Dominant.
Are submissives fun? Absolutely. Are slaves entertaining? You bet you're bottom dollar. Can you just walk up to either one of them and grab them off the shelf and have instant success? No way Jose. At their core, they are inately different as defined by their needs.. their need for or to release control.. their need to obey.. and the intensity of their feeling to subjugate themselves.. Neither is better or worse.. Nor is this a spiritual matter..
Its all about need.. hunger.. desire.. Before you define yourself, you should define yours.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire..
How does that old addage go?
Liar, Liar.. Pants on fire.. Hang your butt on a telephone wire? and so on and so forth.. I think we all sang that rhyme as children.. taunting each other with a holier than thou sense of superiority when it came to our own honesty.. and yet, in all reality.. underneath it all.. dont we all lie? Every single one of us?
Of course we do.. and the one that says he doesnt is the biggest liar of them all.
So, if we're all liars.. because a lie is a lie is a lie just as a sin is a sin is a sin.. How do we ever guage honesty? To me, its a matter of how much garbage someone will go through before they tell that lie..
Will she walk through fire before she lies to you about her feelings?!? or..rather would He tell a whopper at the drop of the hat rather than divulge an innocuous outting with another wanton hole?!? hm?!? How much will someone go through.. or moreover.. how much is their personal integrity worth to them?
I had contemplated briefly that it was perhaps an environmental affliction that could cause the lie.. and yet.. if thats the cause, that would also go to implicate their lack of personal integrity as well, wouldnt you say? If their concern for someone else's reactions allowed them to truly sway them from being truthful, I do believe that reflects on them.. That being said, telling someone that you are standing them up for dinner plan because you have a hot date with someone else is a lot harder than lying and saying youre taking your aunt, or mother or other family member somewhere.. but eventually, the truth is always told..
So why do I believe people lie? Fear.. plain and simple.. They are afraid .. afraid of losing something.. afraid of perceptions.. afraid of the other persons reaction or lack of acceptance.. I can see why children lie so much though.. they operate on instinct and need.. Fear is an instinctual reaction.. and that is, in my humble opinion, why it is so hard to train them to not lie to us as they develop..
But then, why do we as adults, and then moreover, within the realm of Master / slave relationships, choose to lie to each other.. To a certain degree, fear of rejection, perceptions, and judgment, at least in theory, should be removed..
Within a Master, a slave should find her shelter from the world.. a place to be vulnerable.. He is responsible for her training.. thus, abject honesty on her part is elemental.. and then in turn, a her Master receives her full, unhindered submission.. its trusting, and blind.. that is built on credibility..
I find it ironic that most of us would not leave a $20 bill laying on a sidewalk.. nor would we toss it out the window as we drove down the highway.. So, I ask you this..
If you wont treat what equates to lunch at Mcdonalds cavalierly, why would you treat your relationships that way by polluting them with lies no matter how you try to justify them?
After all.. the last line of that old rhyme says..
Made a mistake.. and now, its too late.
Liar, Liar.. Pants on fire.. Hang your butt on a telephone wire? and so on and so forth.. I think we all sang that rhyme as children.. taunting each other with a holier than thou sense of superiority when it came to our own honesty.. and yet, in all reality.. underneath it all.. dont we all lie? Every single one of us?
Of course we do.. and the one that says he doesnt is the biggest liar of them all.
So, if we're all liars.. because a lie is a lie is a lie just as a sin is a sin is a sin.. How do we ever guage honesty? To me, its a matter of how much garbage someone will go through before they tell that lie..
Will she walk through fire before she lies to you about her feelings?!? or..rather would He tell a whopper at the drop of the hat rather than divulge an innocuous outting with another wanton hole?!? hm?!? How much will someone go through.. or moreover.. how much is their personal integrity worth to them?
I had contemplated briefly that it was perhaps an environmental affliction that could cause the lie.. and yet.. if thats the cause, that would also go to implicate their lack of personal integrity as well, wouldnt you say? If their concern for someone else's reactions allowed them to truly sway them from being truthful, I do believe that reflects on them.. That being said, telling someone that you are standing them up for dinner plan because you have a hot date with someone else is a lot harder than lying and saying youre taking your aunt, or mother or other family member somewhere.. but eventually, the truth is always told..
So why do I believe people lie? Fear.. plain and simple.. They are afraid .. afraid of losing something.. afraid of perceptions.. afraid of the other persons reaction or lack of acceptance.. I can see why children lie so much though.. they operate on instinct and need.. Fear is an instinctual reaction.. and that is, in my humble opinion, why it is so hard to train them to not lie to us as they develop..
But then, why do we as adults, and then moreover, within the realm of Master / slave relationships, choose to lie to each other.. To a certain degree, fear of rejection, perceptions, and judgment, at least in theory, should be removed..
Within a Master, a slave should find her shelter from the world.. a place to be vulnerable.. He is responsible for her training.. thus, abject honesty on her part is elemental.. and then in turn, a her Master receives her full, unhindered submission.. its trusting, and blind.. that is built on credibility..
I find it ironic that most of us would not leave a $20 bill laying on a sidewalk.. nor would we toss it out the window as we drove down the highway.. So, I ask you this..
If you wont treat what equates to lunch at Mcdonalds cavalierly, why would you treat your relationships that way by polluting them with lies no matter how you try to justify them?
After all.. the last line of that old rhyme says..
Made a mistake.. and now, its too late.
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Words..
Soooo.. what makes blue, blue? What defined it per se?!? Some quorum of collegiates in a far off locale that decided to make a word up and to thrust it upon us all????
Actually, oddly enough, that is how it happens, to a certain degree.. That being said, who decides and then defines other, less common, typical words in our language?!? Words such as those we frequent in the lifestyle.. i have noticed a trend lately to 'non-define' words.. or.. for a lack of a better term to make words all encompassing.. im not sure if thats because we're insecure about ourselves and being labelled... or, rather, if we just simply do not know ourselves well enough to adequately declare what and who we are...
In either case, its sad..
Take for instance the difference between Masters and Dominants or slaves and submissives... There are distinct differences between each classification and thus, each grouping interacts especially different in relation to the other groupings as well.. Accordingly, it can be really important to be self aware..
If you are a bottom natured woman, thats just groovy.. But, if youre a bottom natured woman that likes to yield except for a few areas, you can say without hesitation that you are not a slave and you that you are most likely a submissive.. Why does this matter truly? Wellllllll.... If you find and meet someone that believes youre a slave which has no limitations or boundaries, it could become very problematic for your relationship..
Just as i have told my youngest child when he's been mischevious, "Son, you are hard pressed to do new.. " We are also hard pressed to do new or to be the 'only ones' to do something or to want something in this lifestyle.. Ergo, morphing ourselves into something we arent or a conglomeration of things in order to meet people really only serves to meet the WRONG people..
Some of us may have to wait years.. several years, in fact, to meet the right person to complete them.. But, it is possible.. When you are true to yourself.. you will find that the person on the other end is like minded and also sincere..
There is nothing more disheartening to a slave or a submissive for that matter, than to invest yourself into a Master or Dominant only to find them ambivalent or dispassionate..
While they may seem to be only words.. they are the words that quantify and define our actions.. the actions within our lives and thus, they bear great weight.. to treat them with a cavalier stroke of the pen would be tantamount to treating our personal lives in the same manner..
Me? Personally? i prefer to kneel as a slave before my Master.. to be the reason for His smile.. i am confident in my role and His.. and most importantly.. Ours..
Actually, oddly enough, that is how it happens, to a certain degree.. That being said, who decides and then defines other, less common, typical words in our language?!? Words such as those we frequent in the lifestyle.. i have noticed a trend lately to 'non-define' words.. or.. for a lack of a better term to make words all encompassing.. im not sure if thats because we're insecure about ourselves and being labelled... or, rather, if we just simply do not know ourselves well enough to adequately declare what and who we are...
In either case, its sad..
Take for instance the difference between Masters and Dominants or slaves and submissives... There are distinct differences between each classification and thus, each grouping interacts especially different in relation to the other groupings as well.. Accordingly, it can be really important to be self aware..
If you are a bottom natured woman, thats just groovy.. But, if youre a bottom natured woman that likes to yield except for a few areas, you can say without hesitation that you are not a slave and you that you are most likely a submissive.. Why does this matter truly? Wellllllll.... If you find and meet someone that believes youre a slave which has no limitations or boundaries, it could become very problematic for your relationship..
Just as i have told my youngest child when he's been mischevious, "Son, you are hard pressed to do new.. " We are also hard pressed to do new or to be the 'only ones' to do something or to want something in this lifestyle.. Ergo, morphing ourselves into something we arent or a conglomeration of things in order to meet people really only serves to meet the WRONG people..
Some of us may have to wait years.. several years, in fact, to meet the right person to complete them.. But, it is possible.. When you are true to yourself.. you will find that the person on the other end is like minded and also sincere..
There is nothing more disheartening to a slave or a submissive for that matter, than to invest yourself into a Master or Dominant only to find them ambivalent or dispassionate..
While they may seem to be only words.. they are the words that quantify and define our actions.. the actions within our lives and thus, they bear great weight.. to treat them with a cavalier stroke of the pen would be tantamount to treating our personal lives in the same manner..
Me? Personally? i prefer to kneel as a slave before my Master.. to be the reason for His smile.. i am confident in my role and His.. and most importantly.. Ours..
Power and Awe
How powerful are you..
i am in awe..
Words trickle from your lips
Like water from a fountain..
With those, You've given clarity
To my world, You've brought definition..
You are my purpose..
my focus and yet my dream..
Comfort is found in Your sigh..
Happiness in Your laughter..
To be less.. less than perfect for You..
Defeats my desire for You..
Your strength compells me...
Downward.. to my knees.. to yield..
Because You are my Master..
And i.. i am Your slave..
i am in awe..
Words trickle from your lips
Like water from a fountain..
With those, You've given clarity
To my world, You've brought definition..
You are my purpose..
my focus and yet my dream..
Comfort is found in Your sigh..
Happiness in Your laughter..
To be less.. less than perfect for You..
Defeats my desire for You..
Your strength compells me...
Downward.. to my knees.. to yield..
Because You are my Master..
And i.. i am Your slave..
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Let Me Be Precious
pre·cious \ˈpre-shəs\1 : of great value or high price 2 : highly esteemed or cherished 3 : excessively refined : affected
You may often ask yourself - what do you hold precious, of value, of high importance? But, maybe.. just maybe.. a more critical question is this..
What have you done lately to deserve being precious in the eyes of others and especially your loved ones?!?
I mean really, a slave doesn't rest on her proverbial laurels.. How have you made yourself valuable to your Master? This goes beyond making sure you say 'Sir' or enjoy a little slap and tickle.
If you base your value on sex - how good you give it or how often you give it or just how kinky you are, be in for a surprise because thats a poor foundation for anything other than a brothel. Give of yourself.. Serve.. Fully.. Happily.. with Humility..
Have you ever noticed how many sentences you utter start with I, mine, or my?!? Hmmm... If you look at that, you might notice just what your real priority is.. If you're worried about being validated or accommodated, you will find it hard to become precious to a Master (at least to someone real and not a cyber-wannabe)..
Everyone has needs.. that is a basic fact of life.. its just what exactly is the need of a slave? Shouldn't it to be precious in the eyes of her Master? To be the reason for his smile?!?
After all, vanilla girls can fornicate well every now and again.. But, only slaves fully, unabashedly serve without limitation.. and that...THAT.. is how a slave becomes precious..
You may often ask yourself - what do you hold precious, of value, of high importance? But, maybe.. just maybe.. a more critical question is this..
What have you done lately to deserve being precious in the eyes of others and especially your loved ones?!?
I mean really, a slave doesn't rest on her proverbial laurels.. How have you made yourself valuable to your Master? This goes beyond making sure you say 'Sir' or enjoy a little slap and tickle.
If you base your value on sex - how good you give it or how often you give it or just how kinky you are, be in for a surprise because thats a poor foundation for anything other than a brothel. Give of yourself.. Serve.. Fully.. Happily.. with Humility..
Have you ever noticed how many sentences you utter start with I, mine, or my?!? Hmmm... If you look at that, you might notice just what your real priority is.. If you're worried about being validated or accommodated, you will find it hard to become precious to a Master (at least to someone real and not a cyber-wannabe)..
Everyone has needs.. that is a basic fact of life.. its just what exactly is the need of a slave? Shouldn't it to be precious in the eyes of her Master? To be the reason for his smile?!?
After all, vanilla girls can fornicate well every now and again.. But, only slaves fully, unabashedly serve without limitation.. and that...THAT.. is how a slave becomes precious..
Friday, May 23, 2008
Penguins and Slaves...
Have you seen the mammoth flocks of penguins in Antarctica?!? Thousands and thousands of birds waddling around at the same time on the same plot of land.. Males.. and Females.. and.. immature birds.. Its often asked - how does the baby penguin know who its mother or father is?!?!?Each Penguin Parent makes a distinctive call.. the baby bird hears this once and learns in.. its imprinted on its very being.. In a way, an uncollared slave can be similar.. Sitting.. quietly in the still.. Waiting.. and.. Listening.. She sits there, listening to the various people she encounters, hoping to realize that one of them will be a true Master to her... She knows his sound, what he is made of.. its been imprinted on her.. He merely needs to make himself known to her.. She's waiting.. and listening.. For Him..
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
The Vessel..
i am but a vessel...
carried with the tide...
bearing the weight of my Master's desires
while my sister, the stars, shines upon me...
he sets my sails aloft... letting them carry me..
guiding me... directing me...
the destination his...
the waters around me are deep, dark and cold...
beckoning me deeper beneath their murky depths
to the bottom...
and still we move..
cutting through these waters like a knife...
oblivious to the constant siren's song of the waves...
i hear him whispering...
star light... star bright..
give me my wish, i wish this night...
and in the whistling of the wind there is a reply...
tonight's wish
is tomorrow's dream
is the next day's nightmare..
carried with the tide...
bearing the weight of my Master's desires
while my sister, the stars, shines upon me...
he sets my sails aloft... letting them carry me..
guiding me... directing me...
the destination his...
the waters around me are deep, dark and cold...
beckoning me deeper beneath their murky depths
to the bottom...
and still we move..
cutting through these waters like a knife...
oblivious to the constant siren's song of the waves...
i hear him whispering...
star light... star bright..
give me my wish, i wish this night...
and in the whistling of the wind there is a reply...
tonight's wish
is tomorrow's dream
is the next day's nightmare..
Friday, November 16, 2007
Control is a Matter of Perception..
A thing was said to me today which made me contemplate the ability of another to control someone up to the point where the other party changes things. I think its really important to remember ~
Control is a Matter of Perception... Ergo, Control over the circumstances affected by another's behavior is truly pure perception. Do not fool yourself otherwise. Once the other party decides to no longer play ball per se, its Game Over!
Make no mistake, this is NOT about Dominance and submission. A slave's submission is brought through a level of given service, even better a sacrificial service, through devotion to her Master, with the full knowledge and awareness of what she is giving and what she is (and this is important) receiving from Him in return... While her Master covets her submission, structures in Dominance and guides it through caring and order and nurture. He is fully aware that the level of her service is truly a gift to him and treats it as such with Honor and Respect by meeting her needs, both those she is aware of and those she may not so clearly see. They are aware of the give and take within the relationship, defined it prior to engaging it, and embraced it as such.. Because of all this, there is Beauty in the service between a Master and slave... Beauty in the order and care they take for each other.. There is no Arrogance and Misconceptions as to how Control came to be exchanged in this arrangement.
So where does that leave you? If you choose to do otherwise.. If you choose to believe that the person you've convinced yourself you can 'manage' on your own will be ok, then you will continue to put yourself in positions where you are vulnerable and perhaps not in control of yourself. Arrogance is powerful emotion and it leads us to many, many error frought decisions (believe me, I've made some lovely ones!).
The thing I have always told my children was that there were always consequences.. good and bad for every action, or, inaction.. Sometimes its hard to reconcile ourself to that because we'd like to believe we didnt have a choice but really there is always a choice.
Choices. Its been six months and then some now for mine. Sleep still is elusive. I have to go through a little more for it but its ok now. Arrogance sometimes asks a pretty penny. But thats the price sometimes when you think you can control a situation or believe you have someone under control.
It flips on a dime.. and it changes.. and where you were is not where you are now.. the rabbit hole surely fell open, swallowed you up and spit you out in a totally different dimensional plane.. It happens that fast.. All the players of the game are still sitting there looking at you but what you didnt know was that when stopped to take that breath a moment ago and when you needed to blink your eyes...
All the rules changed.. Control is Truly a Matter of Perception.
Control is a Matter of Perception... Ergo, Control over the circumstances affected by another's behavior is truly pure perception. Do not fool yourself otherwise. Once the other party decides to no longer play ball per se, its Game Over!
Make no mistake, this is NOT about Dominance and submission. A slave's submission is brought through a level of given service, even better a sacrificial service, through devotion to her Master, with the full knowledge and awareness of what she is giving and what she is (and this is important) receiving from Him in return... While her Master covets her submission, structures in Dominance and guides it through caring and order and nurture. He is fully aware that the level of her service is truly a gift to him and treats it as such with Honor and Respect by meeting her needs, both those she is aware of and those she may not so clearly see. They are aware of the give and take within the relationship, defined it prior to engaging it, and embraced it as such.. Because of all this, there is Beauty in the service between a Master and slave... Beauty in the order and care they take for each other.. There is no Arrogance and Misconceptions as to how Control came to be exchanged in this arrangement.
So where does that leave you? If you choose to do otherwise.. If you choose to believe that the person you've convinced yourself you can 'manage' on your own will be ok, then you will continue to put yourself in positions where you are vulnerable and perhaps not in control of yourself. Arrogance is powerful emotion and it leads us to many, many error frought decisions (believe me, I've made some lovely ones!).
The thing I have always told my children was that there were always consequences.. good and bad for every action, or, inaction.. Sometimes its hard to reconcile ourself to that because we'd like to believe we didnt have a choice but really there is always a choice.
Choices. Its been six months and then some now for mine. Sleep still is elusive. I have to go through a little more for it but its ok now. Arrogance sometimes asks a pretty penny. But thats the price sometimes when you think you can control a situation or believe you have someone under control.
It flips on a dime.. and it changes.. and where you were is not where you are now.. the rabbit hole surely fell open, swallowed you up and spit you out in a totally different dimensional plane.. It happens that fast.. All the players of the game are still sitting there looking at you but what you didnt know was that when stopped to take that breath a moment ago and when you needed to blink your eyes...
All the rules changed.. Control is Truly a Matter of Perception.
Thursday, November 8, 2007
Dominating Thoughts...
Over the past few months ive written a lot about my point of view and in turn how ive been trained to understand submission and a slave's role... It's had a variety of reactions including queries as to my point of view on Dominance.. Apparently, enquiring minds want to know..
Sooooo.... As im always full of an opinion .. or two.. or three..lol.. here goes!
Dominance 101 ~ whats the point of it???? what purpose does the Dominant serve to the sub /slave??? Well, as i KNOW ya'll have read all the other blogs you undoubtedly remember the first lesson for a slave.. yes?? come on.. you can raise your hands... lol Remember? Lesson No. 1 for a slave is to .. Serve to be served.. by serving Him, it serves her needs??? Ring a bell?? Is there a ringy dingy going off anywhere???
Ok.. Ergo, through this same concept.. the slave serves.. and to that purpose the Dominant by nature fosters an environment that encourage the behaviors he enjoys in his slave.. its a symbiotic relationship.. Structure and order... Trust and Commitment.. those develop between the two through service to each other..
If only one is serving, there will be, eventually, a failure in Trust, in Commitment and then in turn a breach in Order and in Structure and that results in a failure in a relationship...
Realistically, beyond a BDSM relationship, in any relationship, where the parties fail to serve each other regularly, with full consideration and commitment to what they should be bringing to the table.. what the other needs... then there will be always be, without fail, a relationship in jeopardy...
i mean, come on people, isnt the point of loving someone and being with someone to take care of them? i mean, to really take care of them? inside and out? can you be honest with yourself and say you have? i am just as flawed as a lot of people.. and i work at it everyday.. its just something to be cognizant of..
So, while people tend to perceive a Master as a pvc chap wearing kink-master-flash, his is also a point of service to his sub/ slave... Because, through his guidance, the order he provides, the structure, and even the boundaries.. it gives her what she needs.. those are the things she is looking for in her life.. In so many ways, they are the ying and the yang..
Why the kink? Why whip your tail? Why bend you over the desk and paddle you with that ginormous leather paddle????
Because... Y/you two can.. Because Y/you two like it.. and Most importantly..
Because... Y/you two want it..
Sooooo.... As im always full of an opinion .. or two.. or three..lol.. here goes!
Dominance 101 ~ whats the point of it???? what purpose does the Dominant serve to the sub /slave??? Well, as i KNOW ya'll have read all the other blogs you undoubtedly remember the first lesson for a slave.. yes?? come on.. you can raise your hands... lol Remember? Lesson No. 1 for a slave is to .. Serve to be served.. by serving Him, it serves her needs??? Ring a bell?? Is there a ringy dingy going off anywhere???
Ok.. Ergo, through this same concept.. the slave serves.. and to that purpose the Dominant by nature fosters an environment that encourage the behaviors he enjoys in his slave.. its a symbiotic relationship.. Structure and order... Trust and Commitment.. those develop between the two through service to each other..
If only one is serving, there will be, eventually, a failure in Trust, in Commitment and then in turn a breach in Order and in Structure and that results in a failure in a relationship...
Realistically, beyond a BDSM relationship, in any relationship, where the parties fail to serve each other regularly, with full consideration and commitment to what they should be bringing to the table.. what the other needs... then there will be always be, without fail, a relationship in jeopardy...
i mean, come on people, isnt the point of loving someone and being with someone to take care of them? i mean, to really take care of them? inside and out? can you be honest with yourself and say you have? i am just as flawed as a lot of people.. and i work at it everyday.. its just something to be cognizant of..
So, while people tend to perceive a Master as a pvc chap wearing kink-master-flash, his is also a point of service to his sub/ slave... Because, through his guidance, the order he provides, the structure, and even the boundaries.. it gives her what she needs.. those are the things she is looking for in her life.. In so many ways, they are the ying and the yang..
Why the kink? Why whip your tail? Why bend you over the desk and paddle you with that ginormous leather paddle????
Because... Y/you two can.. Because Y/you two like it.. and Most importantly..
Because... Y/you two want it..
Thursday, November 1, 2007
A Few Lessons For Yummy Slaves..
As this girl has been allowed to serve for almost ten years now.. ive been taught (sometimes begrudgingly so) a few things.. Lately, ive been noticing some odd behavior from some of my cohorts.. in a show of ... what the heck are you thinking and can you please fix this now cuz youre making it hard on all of us.. i thought i might share a few of the important ones with them now..
One of the first lessons and in turn the most important lessons learned, was a slave serves to be served.. Now, darlings, ohhhhh yummy, savory, dear ones.. this is a lesson to take to heart, if you have one in that stoney facade... you serve your Master, because frankly speaking, serving Him serves your needs...
That brings us to Lesson Numero Dos chickiepoo's... so, open up your text books and get your comment cards ready (cuz i know its your favorite past time).. Ready? really really ready? got your socks on cuz im gonna hit the ground running on this one and im not waiting for your ass to catch up.. Ahem.. Now, where were we for the slow ones..
Oh yes .. Lesson No. 2 ~ Service Requires Humility and that means.. for those who have synapsis that fail to frequently fire and cant quite make that bridge of logic between the left brain and the right... There isnt any room for your ginormous ego.. and Lord knows.. if there isnt room for that thing which the Hubble used to call out from space..and you have to get rid of it.. how in the jolly green eyed monsterville can you expect to be jealous, possessive, or whatever pretty little word your therapist wrote down on her paper that helps you make it through the night but really says the same damned thing as the other two words.. aka.. youre just a jealous bitch.. so get over it.. its not allowed anymore..
Its ok.. you can stop crying now.. its over.. See.. that wasnt so hard!
And our third lesson ladies.. this one should make you all go, well duh! Especially if you've managed to get the other two lessons to gel in your brain cavity sufficiently... Now, so to recap.. if youre still here with us oh yummy ones.. lil savory darlings..
If youre still here, youve assumed the position.. with grace and humility.. ego checked at the door and all that entails.. and with the full realization of what service means... So, ideally, it should be easy to hear Lesson Three.. but really its not for some.. because this one doesnt have orders from Master.. youre self governing here, chicka..
Lesson Three says you, darling, are always a reflection of your Master in all ways.. how does cattiness become him? how does rudeness become him? Is kindness what you would extend to his friends or, rather, a bite of the hand? Its more than manicured fingernails and toes... i assure you.. although id no sooner be caught dead with a chipped toesie..
How do you serve your Master when he is not there? By excelling at Lesson Number Three.. by not just being groovy to the ugly fat chicks youre not worried he might have an inclination to boink.. Lets be real about this shall we dears? He's going to do what he wants.. He has the privity of the cane.. there is freedom in that..
What should you have? Confidence in your ability to serve his needs.. Confidence in your own beauty.. Confidence in your own ways to make him smile..
Because as a slave, anything more than confidence looks an awful lot like an untrained, ill mannered brat that has no need to serve more than to get her rocks off let alone make her Master happy.. So, choose your actions accordingly..
One of the first lessons and in turn the most important lessons learned, was a slave serves to be served.. Now, darlings, ohhhhh yummy, savory, dear ones.. this is a lesson to take to heart, if you have one in that stoney facade... you serve your Master, because frankly speaking, serving Him serves your needs...
That brings us to Lesson Numero Dos chickiepoo's... so, open up your text books and get your comment cards ready (cuz i know its your favorite past time).. Ready? really really ready? got your socks on cuz im gonna hit the ground running on this one and im not waiting for your ass to catch up.. Ahem.. Now, where were we for the slow ones..
Oh yes .. Lesson No. 2 ~ Service Requires Humility and that means.. for those who have synapsis that fail to frequently fire and cant quite make that bridge of logic between the left brain and the right... There isnt any room for your ginormous ego.. and Lord knows.. if there isnt room for that thing which the Hubble used to call out from space..and you have to get rid of it.. how in the jolly green eyed monsterville can you expect to be jealous, possessive, or whatever pretty little word your therapist wrote down on her paper that helps you make it through the night but really says the same damned thing as the other two words.. aka.. youre just a jealous bitch.. so get over it.. its not allowed anymore..
Its ok.. you can stop crying now.. its over.. See.. that wasnt so hard!
And our third lesson ladies.. this one should make you all go, well duh! Especially if you've managed to get the other two lessons to gel in your brain cavity sufficiently... Now, so to recap.. if youre still here with us oh yummy ones.. lil savory darlings..
If youre still here, youve assumed the position.. with grace and humility.. ego checked at the door and all that entails.. and with the full realization of what service means... So, ideally, it should be easy to hear Lesson Three.. but really its not for some.. because this one doesnt have orders from Master.. youre self governing here, chicka..
Lesson Three says you, darling, are always a reflection of your Master in all ways.. how does cattiness become him? how does rudeness become him? Is kindness what you would extend to his friends or, rather, a bite of the hand? Its more than manicured fingernails and toes... i assure you.. although id no sooner be caught dead with a chipped toesie..
How do you serve your Master when he is not there? By excelling at Lesson Number Three.. by not just being groovy to the ugly fat chicks youre not worried he might have an inclination to boink.. Lets be real about this shall we dears? He's going to do what he wants.. He has the privity of the cane.. there is freedom in that..
What should you have? Confidence in your ability to serve his needs.. Confidence in your own beauty.. Confidence in your own ways to make him smile..
Because as a slave, anything more than confidence looks an awful lot like an untrained, ill mannered brat that has no need to serve more than to get her rocks off let alone make her Master happy.. So, choose your actions accordingly..
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